Showing posts with label positive psychology. Show all posts
Showing posts with label positive psychology. Show all posts

Monday, October 8, 2012

Negative Reports of Positive Psychology

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Negative reports of positive psychology show ignorance isn’t bliss

By Adam Barsky, University of Melbourne and Michael Zyphur, University of Melbourne
Perhaps because the word positive automatically brings to mind the insufferable yellow smiley face, the field of positive psychology is struggling to get the respect that it deserves. Two articles in the Fairfax press this year – (30 March and 1 September) – have reinforced common misconceptions about positive psychology – in terms of both what it is, and how it is applied.
Positive psychology is not and has never been a “positive thinking” movement. Rather, it’s the study of what allows people to operate at the peak of their potential: to live longer and healthier, participate in more satisfying friendships and marriages, and have more engaging and meaningful careers. It’s also the study of what makes communities and institutions stronger and more resilient.
In contrast to the way positive psychology is portrayed in the media, research within the area has explicitly debunked the notions that “putting on a happy face,” pursuing short-term pleasures and external rewards, or boosting self-esteem are effective means of creating long-term well-being at home, at work, or in schools. Positive psychology is more about finding meaning and lasting fulfilment.
But books such as The Secret and The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People have bastardised positive psychology and regurgitated it into a crowd-pleasing and a multimillion-dollar “positive thinking” industry. And misunderstanding and ill-informed commentary have compounded the problem and produced a bitter backlash against the science. The source of this backlash’s power is easy to identify – it is ignorance about the field.
Positive psychology is focused on understanding what enables us to flourish and achieve our potential at home, at work, and in schools. The field contrasts with the majority of work in the discipline of psychology which has traditionally focused on the goal of reducing illness and negative states. While understanding and alleviating sickness and depression is a worthy goal, it only addresses part of the well-being equation.
The pursuit of money does not make us happy. Madeline Puckette

Some of the findings are exciting and challenge our thinking on what it takes to live a happy and healthy life. One key set of findings is that the pursuit of money and status that so pervades our culture and political discourse is unhelpful in making us happy. People adjust very quickly to something that gives them pleasure or pain. A famous study of lottery winners and victims of spinal injuries found that while those who won the lottery were briefly much happier and those who became quadriplegics and paraplegics were briefly much less happy, everyone soon returned to their original levels of happiness.
Seeking extrinsic rewards, such as money and status, doesn’t build lasting happiness, it simply sets us up to run on an addictive “hedonic treadmill”, which keeps returning us to where we started. Positive psychology research has found that long-term well-being is driven by cultivating trusting and nurturing relationships, having interesting and engaging work, and setting meaningful goals and feeling yourself progress towards achieving them.
Another clear set of findings suggests that individuals gain at least as much, if not more, from building on their strengths as improving areas of weakness. Management research has found that even though problematic employees demand more attention, managers who invest the most time with their best people perform between two and three times better than managers who spend more time with their worst.
Similarly, managers who create environments allowing employees to regularly exercise their talents have more productive workers and lower turnover. The findings don’t suggest we ignore negativity but create conditions where individuals and groups can thrive.
These are only a few of the numerous findings from positive psychology that inform how we can arrange our lives, schools and workplaces to be more engaging, productive, and resilient. The express goal of the field is to bring an evidence-based approach to helping individuals cope with and grow from disengagement, isolation, depression, stress and trauma and take advantage of their collaborative ability, creativity, vitality to build wellness and to flourish.
Putting on a happy face is not effective for creating long-term well-being. Chantel Beam

People who know the field know that it is not a positive thinking movement and that it doesn’t even focus exclusively on the positive but extends to the study of adaptability, strength, and growth out of hardship and failure.
There are certainly legitimate critiques of positive psychology: the field is still relatively new and evidence is still being generated and integrated. And its focus to date has been on the individual and primarily in Western contexts. But most critiques have been levelled at the ways positive psychology is applied. As with any emerging movement, the tendency for some to sell services or write books under the guise of positive psychology but with only a cursory understanding of the field is ever present.
And as with any field, there are increasing numbers of poorly-trained practitioners and consultants claiming to practise positive psychology without truly understand the research or the challenges of implementing its conclusions. Such consultants are likely to promise too much, deliver too little, and create resistance to change that could have been beneficial if positive psychology principles had actually been understood and implemented.
But a few bad apples shouldn’t damn an entire field or the many qualified and competent researchers and practitioners who are implementing well-validated positive programs or testing new interventions to address some of the most pressing issues of the day.
Adam Barsky is affiliated with Applied Research Consulting which consults in the area of Positive Education and Positive Leadership, both are informed by Positive Psychology.
Michael Zyphur does not work for, consult to, own shares in or receive funding from any company or organisation that would benefit from this article, and has no relevant affiliations.
The Conversation
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Monday, September 10, 2012

The Value of Lemonade Stands

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One of the 24 Values In Action from Positive Psychology research is Persistence (Perseverance and Industriousness)(p.229).  This weekend I stopped to buy a glass of lemonade from two children in my neighborhood.  I had backed out of my garage and did not notice the lemonade stand until I was about turn the corner.  I pulled over – not because I needed lemonade – but because they had taken the time to ask their parents to set the stand up for them.

Lemonade stands are not something parents force a kid to do.  Generally, kids ask for help to put a stand together.  Asking for a lemonade stand does not mean you are necessarily industrious, but it does help you learn in a safe environment what it might take to succeed in life.  I live in a gated community.  I do not live on a heavily trafficked street, yet these two children decided to try, in the 100 degree heat, to sell their tasty libation.  They could have been in the pool, in an air conditioned family room watching television, or on the computer playing games.  Instead, they chose to put themselves ‘out there’ and try their hand at a small business. 
I like that for whatever the reason we live in a country with a ‘lemonade stand’ metaphor.  When some business person wants to prove they were industrious from a young age, they like to talk about the newspaper routes and lemonade stands they started. As they get older and traverse greater challenges in less safe business environments, there are lots of stories of turning ‘lemons into lemonade.’  The metaphor of turning something naturally sour into something sweet and enjoyable is the perfect metaphor for teaching resilience.  Resilience is the attribute that supports persistence, perseverance and industriousness.  We are never too young, or too old, to learn to build such great attributes. 

Happy Monday.  Thank you, Andrea T. Goeglein, PhD
 

 

Monday, July 30, 2012

TGIM

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This TED video is going to make you Thank God It's Monday.  Shawn Achor is an incredible presenter.  He had me hooked with the title:  The happy secret to better work, but when he said the line, "The reason I am here today and the reason I get up excited each morning is Positive Psychology!" I was sold.  Great investment of 12 minutes of your time. Thank you, Andrea

Wednesday, June 13, 2012

Free Positive Psychology Lecture Series

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This was such a incredible offer, I wanted to post.  This is an opportunity to learn from one of the top researchers in the field of Positive Psychology, Robert Biswas-Diener , do it for free, from the comfort of your own phone.  It does not get better than that.  Here is the information.  Frist call is today, Wednesday, June 13.  No registration.  Just call at the designated time.  No recordings will be available after the call.  Use it or lose it! 
New Free Lecture Series starts this week!We are at it again! As part of our mission to make positive psychology practices available to everyone, Dr. Robert Biswas-Diener and the Positive Acorn team are set to deliver a free lecture series starting June 13th, 2012.  Robert will lecture on the latest interventions in applied positive psychology.
The recording of these lectures will NOT be made available so you must join us for the live session in order to get the information and experience. We encourage you to share this information with your friends and colleagues. Please join us by calling into our conference line on the following dates!
Topics and Schedule
(all times are US Pacific)
June 13th
, 2012 at 12:00pm 
Humor and Positive Effect
 
June 14th, 2012 at 9:00am 
Mindset Malleability
 
June 14th, 2012 at 12:00pm 
Motivation Maintenance

June 17th, 2012 at 12:00pm 
Positive Work 

June 18th, 2012 at 12:00pm 
Time Orientation and Savoring
  June 19th, 2012 at 12:00pm 
Story and Organization

June 20th, 2012 at 12:00pm 
Courage in Cultures

 July 16th, 2012 at 12:00pm 
Positive Assessment

 
Call in number: (559)546-1401
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We look forward to interacting with you on the calls!
The Positive Acorn team
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Monday, April 30, 2012

Flourish

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Marty Seligman delivered this TED speech in 2004.  I was completing his Authentic Happiness Coaching program at that time and he told us about this speech.  This segment covers Positive Psychology to that point in its young history.  It is a good primer for those interested in the subject. 

One part not covered in this video that Marty shared during the class stuck with me -- because it is something I generally do not care about -- and that was when he taught that when Florence was the center of economic commerce, the greatest decision the wealthy made was to invest in the arts. 

It was that investment that helped the society flourish and continue to proposer for centuries.  Today, the core of Florence's global attraction is art and architecture created during that time (well maybe food, fashion and weather have something to do it, too). 

I live in Las Vegas.  Tourists do not come to Las Vegas because of the art and culture.  Yet, several years ago the buzz about the Smith Center for the Performing Arts and its creation began to circulate.  In March, 2012 The Smith Center opened -- after having been constructed during the worst depression in Las Vegas history (because the population of Las Vegas was so small during the Great Depression most stories you hear about Las Vegas and that depression are associated with how Las Vegas prospered from government stimulus -- specifically the building of Hoover Dam).

As I sat in the Smith Center Reynolds Hall for the first time last night, I understood what the leaders of Florence understood and what Marty Seligman was attempting to teach me...investment in the arts creates community.  Every seat in the hall was filled, and filled with faces of every race, creed, color and generation.  I have lived in Las Vegas 15 years, I have never experienced the electrifying sense of community I experience in that hall. 

I always knew Las Vegas would survive the depression of 2008-2012.  It was not until last night that I could see how it was going to again thrive. 

The Reynolds Foundation legacy will become the legacy of a city. 

Thank you, Andrea T. Goeglein, PhD
DrSuccess@ServingSuccess.com







Tuesday, April 17, 2012

Soft Fascination and Leomonade

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The following blog post was written by author, researcher, teacher and Positive Psychologist, Dr. Robert Biswar-Diener.  Robert has a new book out this week: The Courage Quotient and Robert is one of two resources I recommend for his Positive Psychology Coaching Course.  His April class is full, but he has another scheduled for June 4. I have italicized the section I found most interesting.

Soft Fascination and Lemonade

Anyone who has ever had to proofread, write a bibliography or refrain from snacking in the afternoon knows that these activities can be mentally exhausting. In fact, psychologist Roy Baumeister and his colleagues found that these types of tasks-- those that involve effortful attention-- deplete glucose in the brain. When the researchers gave fatigued study participants a glass of sugary lemonade they suddenly became better at these activities, as opposed to those who were given a glass of lemonade made with an artificial sweetener, who received no benefit.

A new article published earlier this year makes a strong case that attention is a psychological resource that can help us be at our best, but which we can "use up" like logs in a fire. Apart from having some lemonade the authors suggest several ways that we can restore our attentional powers. One is to sleep. Another is to meditate. The third possibility is even more intriguing: The authors divide our attention into two parts, involuntary attention (the natural tracking we engage in that doesn't require any conscious effort) and voluntary attention (the effortful looking at and figuring out of the world around us). An urban environment, the authors say, tends to deplete us because it draws on both our involuntary attention (noticing background information such as buildings) and our voluntary attention (keeping an eye out for traffic). They call this "hard fascination" and it tends to be exhausting. The alternative is "soft fascination" and this is exactly what happens when people experience natural vistas. If you spend time at the beach or walking through the forest your involuntary, but not voluntary attention is engaged, giving the latter time to rest and restore. So getting out into nature can provide a resource boost.
Next time you have a big day with lots of demanding work consider taking a break to go to the city park or similar pleasant greenspace and see how it affects your mental resources. If you just don't have time to get outside I suppose you can always turn to that glass of lemonade!  

Thank you, Robert, for a great post.  Andrea T. Goeglein www.ServingSuccess.com
Here are the links again to order Robert's new book and to his site for outstanding learning opportunities:
http://www.amazon.com/The-Courage-Quotient-Robert-Biswas-Diener/dp/0470917423/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1334326756&sr=8-1

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Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Free Talk on Positive Psychology Today

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Free Talks on Positive Psychology

Please join us next week for a series of free short talks on positive psychology. On Tuesday, February 14th (Valentine's Day) we will be spreading the love by offering two free half hour talks live with Dr. Robert Biswas-Diener. At 9 AM US Pacific (noon Eastern) Robert will be pulling back the curtain and taking you behind the scenes of the history of positive psychology. At 10 AM US Pacific time Robert will be speaking on finding meaning at work.

To join the call simply dial:
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If you have any questions please contact: info@positiveacorn.com

We hope you can join us!

Saturday, November 5, 2011

Take AIM on Happiness

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Now that the new Don't Die book is complete and on the market, its time to get back to the great teachings and teachers of Positive Psychology.  The following is a blog post by Dr. Robert Biswas-Diener.  To learn more about Dr. Biswas-Diener's work and the learning opportunities he offers, go to:
Dr. Robert Biswas-Diener
Positive Acorn, LLC
www.positiveacorn.com  
There's more to this pleasant feeling than you think!

A few years ago a friend and colleague of mine-- Sonja Lyubomirsky-- wrote a book about the science of well-being called "The How of Happiness." In this book Sonja reviewed much of the empirical evidence for various ways that a person might achieve happiness: cultivate a habit of gratitude, plug in spiritually, let go of sour feelings through forgiveness. The How of Happiness was timely and important in that it addressed what is, for many folks, the single most pressing question about happiness, "How can I get some more of it?"

What many people fail to realize, where their own emotional good life is concerned, is that there is an equally crucial question: when is happiness? Many of us simply assume that happiness is an emotion we experience in the present and it therefore makes sense to find pleasant and rewarding tasks in which to engage. There is, however, more to the story..... there is a psychological "happiness timeline" during which happiness is constructed, much in the same way your story of your wedding day or trip to Paris is constructed.
In a book published the same year as Lyubomirsky's, my father-- Ed Diener-- and I introduced readers to the "AIM" model of happiness. In Happiness: Unlocking the mysteries of psychological wealth, we separate into three distinct components: attention, interpretation, and memory.

A- Attention:  It turns out that what you pay attention to in the first place is what your mind becomes filled with! This is why a daily habit of gratitude can be helpful; it shifts your focus to the ways in which the world is good and in which you are fortunate. This is not a matter of naively overlooking the bad, of course. Rather, it is a matter of NOT overlooking the small good daily events.

I- Interpretation: This is classic cognitive psychology. Are you the type of person who feels appreciative when your boyfriend brings you flowers or are you the type to immediately suspect him of wrongdoing? We all have thinking habits and interpreting the events of daily life is one of these. To improve your happiness try consciously considering alternative explanations before jumping to an emotional conclusion.

M- Memory: Happiness does not just exist in the present but also can be drawn from past events. Try savoring past successes, enjoyable experiences and other golden memories by making a habit out of looking at memorabilia or trading stories with a spouse or friends. You will be surprised to find that you can draw actual happiness-- right now-- from events that have taken place long ago. Rather than looking for increased happiness in a better future you can mine your past experiences to pay out happiness dividends!
This week, set a challenge for yourself to undertake at least one of these three approaches to happiness.

Thank you Robert for a great post. 


Tuesday, March 8, 2011

The Psyche of Your Home

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One of the observational cliques that goes around psychology is that the condition of your physical home -- how orderly things are, how well maintained and clear the environment is, if there are photos of friends and family, etc. represents the condition of your personal psyche.  One of my favorite Positive Psychology researchers and authors is Robert Biswas-Diener has again written a blog that I want to share with you.  Again, he made this contribution on the way to another incredible location -- last time he was in Hawaii, this time he is off to South Africa. 
Before you read his contribution, look around your own home.  What is the condition?  Is it showing the way you are feeling?  As I write this I have begun the process of updating and renovating our master bath and bedroom.  We have not done any work on our home since 2007.  I remember how that shook things up.  I look forward with great anticipation what this upcoming work will shift in our lives. 

To read more about Robert and his work, go to www.intentionalhappiness.com  Thank you

Do you live in a retreat center or a circus tent? By Robert Biswas-Diener, PhD


I recently posted photos of my house on Facebook because, I realized, I love my house so much that I wanted to share it with others, if even in a small way. I don't live in a mansion and there is nothing all that remarkable about my two car garage or wooden deck. My house is not necessarily the cause for any bragging rights. My home does have a unique feature, however; a small river running through the lush, fern filled yard that feeds the massive cedar trees that rise up like towers. The natural setting in which my house is nestled has led-on more than one occasion-to guests comparing it to the quiet and serenity of a retreat center. I have come to understand that the physical environment in which I live-the color of the walls in my home, the furnishings, the lighting, the plants, and other features-play a subtle but powerful role in my well-being.

There are many research studies pointing to the conclusion that having a view of a natural setting can be rejuvenating. Nothing new there. That's exactly why people are willing to pay extra for ocean facing hotel rooms when they go on holiday. What is fresh, however, is a new publication by Richard Florida, an intellectual with an interest in place. Florida argues that where you live matters. Living in areas where schools are good and crime is low obviously leads to a better quality of life. Less obvious is the fact that people living in different areas derive happiness from different sources! Using Gallup survey data Florida and his research team discovered that city folk get a kick out of meeting new people, suburban dwellers emphasize safety and education, and people in the country place importance on tight social relationships. Florida suggests that there are four basic qualities to a person's sense of place: basic needs, community, stimulation and freedom.

1. Basic Needs
2. Community
3. Stimulation
4. Freedom

Florida is referring to whole areas-cities and societies. I thought it would be interesting to shrink his theory and apply it on a less grand scale: to my own home. It can be useful to think about the very place you live-your house or apartment-in reference to Florida's four place qualities. Ask yourself how well your basic needs are met? For instance, is the home warm or cool enough? Do you complain about the light? Is there typically food on hand? What about your sense of community within your home? How do your friends, family members, neighbors or housemates contribute to or detract from your well-being? What about stimulation? Is your home full of opportunities to engage your mind in ways you value, or do you find yourself ducking out to get your kicks? Finally, how much freedom do you experience? Do you have a room that is a reflection of you and which you are free to decorate? Chances are, intervening in any one of these areas will translate to more satisfaction and happiness for you. I admit, I ran away with Florida's theory and applied in on a micro scale, but I have found it to be an effective way to understand my own home and how it affects me. I suggest you take the time and try it on for yourself.

One way of getting a more objective gauge of how happy a place your home is would be to take stock of the types of compliments you get when visitors arrive. If you take my house as an example, people are quick to point out the beautiful landscape. Calling my home a "retreat center" suggests that it scores high points on the basic needs dimension, but that it might not be the most stimulating place in the world. This is true, in fact. You won't find TVs blaring or music blasting or people playing video games at our residence. You'll find a group of people reading quietly. Which means, where the happiness of the Biswas-Dieners is concerned, it would be important for us to acquire games, puzzles, toys or other tools for boosting the stimulus value of our otherwise calm household. What are people saying about the place you live, and how can this point you to making small improvements in one of these four areas?

Tuesday, August 17, 2010

Ted.com and Positive Psychology

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Tipping Points, Ted.com and Positive Psychology

In 2004 the founding force behind Positive Psychology was asked to give a talk at Ted.com. At the time I was taking a class from said force, Marty Seligman. I did not know what Ted.com was but like all good students quickly investigated. I have been a fan ever since, even devoting a full page of my website to their videos at one point.

I know now a tipping point has been reached. Ted is now posted on Facebook walls daily, has created TEDx community-supported events, and is referred to regularly by across generational populations. If you have not signed up for their free site, please do.  Be a part of something so very, very good.

I want to share the video that started it all for me.

Martin Seligman on positive psychology Video on TED.com

Thank you,

Andrea Goeglein, PhD
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Thursday, February 4, 2010

Gift from Author of Positive Psychology At The Movies

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Wanted to share a note I got from Ryan Niemiec, author of this week’s featured book, Positive Psychology at the Movies.

If others are interested in one of the extensive handouts from the book (a comprehensive list of films categorized by each of the 24 character strengths), they can get it for free at: www.hogrefe.com/books/978-0-88937-352-5.html

Thank you Ryan!

With appreciation, Andrea
Andrea T. Goeglein, PhD
Dr. Success
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Monday, February 1, 2010

Movies that Move You

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Okay so this may seem a bit strange. Each month I feature a book on AM Arizona which I feel represents some aspect of how to bring Positive Psychology alive in your life. This month I am really not recommending the book so much as what the book teaches. Positive Psychology at the Movies by Ryan Niemiec and Danny Wedding is a reference and research book. It is not a book you want to pick up and read from cover to cover unless you enjoy research. Yet there is so much to learn from this book. Using the model of character strengths and virtues from Positive Psychology, Niemiec and Wedding have developed an outstanding way to view movies and learn about your strengths and virtues.

There are two or three outstanding parts of the book that I would recommend to anyone interested in personal development. First, they cover every one of the strengths and virtues. Many times there is a particular strength like forgiveness or love or spirituality that you really can’t see as having a place in your development. Having worked with and for top executives my entire behavioral career, I can tell you forgiveness and mercy is a difficult strength to discuss. Most people feel that they are being doormats if they forgive too easily in business. Yet, when you see what the strength looks like coming from a character in a movie, you begin to see how it really can be a strength in your own life.

Next there are several charts and lists in the book that are priceless if you want to use film to learn from or to teach from. There are lists of movies with the exact strength the main character is exemplifying and my favorite – a list of the top 100 inspiring movies in the last 100 years!

For those who teach in the field of positive psychology, this book is a treasure chest of teaching opportunities. For anyone who wants to continue their own learning and development, this is an invaluable roadmap of where to start and how to appreciate a strength using something that is in your life every day – a movie.

What I would like to see is an addendum to this great resource book. There is a company that has devoted itself to bringing thoughtful and thought provoking films to wider and broader audiences. That company is The Spiritual Cinema Circle. It is a monthly, subscription based service. As a member you receive a DVD each month with a 4 – 5 films, a discussion sheet and questions to create conversation and thought around the teachings of the movies. I would like to see the Spiritual Cinema’s entire catalog of movies taken through the research matrix that the authors of Positive Psychology at the Movies used. Okay, so maybe – just maybe – my strength of spirituality is coming through. And maybe – just maybe – you can see how a strength can help you develop a livelihood. Spirituality may not be on the list of top ten business skills in any business education program, yet I have found a way to use that exact strength it in my work. That is the beauty of natural strengths, whether you know them or not, all you have to do is invest your time in things that interest you. Generally, you will naturally gravitate toward using your natural strengths.

Happy movie going, Andrea
Andrea T. Goeglein, PhD
DrSuccess@ServingSuccess.com
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Monday, July 27, 2009

Practicing The Power Of Now

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Appreciate (v): to judge with heightened perception or understanding. Webster’s New Collegiate Dictionary

Success Challenge: Observe things you take for granted. A warm cup of coffee when you get to the office, your computer operating as it was intended, the phone working or the person who hands you your ticket at the train station. What would it feel like to be so present that you appreciated that person, place or thing today as you encountered them or it?

For anyone who reads my blog or watches my TV segments , you know that the cornerstone of Positive Psychology is the development of the strength, gratitude. From best I can discern, it is the one strength that if it is not in your top five natural strengths, it is suggested you put forth effort to develop the characteristic.

It was in Echart Tolle’s book, that I first took to heart the notion that gratitude starts with noticing at the most minute level the significance of things that I had not even noticed before. One of Tolle’s practice exercises was to consciously look down at your feet, one step at a time, when you walked up and down a flight of stairs. It was a simple exercise yet, of course, not easy.

It has been eight years since I committed to that practice (most of the time) and my ability to appreciate the small things in life has definitely grown.

This week something happened that drove that lesson home. Our trash gets picked up on Friday of each week (you can’t get more mundane a daily activity than that). My husband usually puts the trash out (yes, I know that is a stereotype!) This week he was traveling and the thought of putting the trash out did not even cross my mind – until, of course, I was working on my computer at 7:15 a.m. Friday and I was distracted by the honking of a big truck’s horn. I immediately wondered what that was about. My next thought was, “oh, no…it's trash day”. It then all connected, the honking was intended to get my attention because the trash men had noticed I did not have my pail out. I quickly got down to the garage, got the trash out to a neighbor’s home across the street and waited for the trash men to circle around. When they did, I thanked them for noticing I had not put out my trash. They beamed, and in turn I experienced a feeling of appreciation too.

As I walked back to my house I sarcastically thought, “what does it say about my life that the trash men honking to reminder is enough to make me feel happy?” Then I smiled and thought, it means that for that moment – that NOW – I had reaped the rewards of Practicing the Power of Now.
With appreciation, Dr. Success

Monday, July 13, 2009

Do you want to be www.Happier.com?

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Rarely does a week go by that someone does not say to me, “How do you stay so positive?” or “How can you be so resilient?”

In the confusion of losing our savings, our investment in a business, and the business itself, I did not initially realize that they were not asking a rhetorical question because of my academic background. Then I got an email wherein the sender wrote, “No, I’m asking how do YOU stay so positive?” Oh, got it. All these people were actually asking how I personally stay positive and resilient.

Admittedly, my confusion was in part due to the chaos at that time in my life. The other reason I was confused speaks directly why I have such a devotion to the tenets of positive psychology. If I do the exercises that research has confirmed elevate mood, I can stay more positive and build more resilience.

The coolest part of all is that the answer for me is the same as it is for the other 6 billion people on our planet.

Now I do know and admit that seeking and using support to do the exercises is potentially harder than actually doing the work. One new web site and its offerings has now made that part of the journey even easier.

Here is the promise of Happier.com:

happier.com inspires people to be happier and more resilient every day. Through tests and exercises to measure, track and improve happiness, thousands of users have experienced a meaningful improvement in their well being. Easy-to-use applications, both online and for the iPhone, provide users with the tools they need to be happier.

If you want, they will send you an email every day reminding you to return to the site and try something new. They have a practitioner directory (look up my profile) that allows you to find support in specific areas from professionals in the field. I particularly like this aspect not just because I am listed, but because many times in my consulting business I need to refer a client to someone with a clinical background. Having the happier.com practitioner resource is a welcome addition to my ability to help others, by knowing the people they are being referred to are more likely to be in alignment with the philosophy from which I work.

Much of the site’s offerings are free but for less than $3 a month – yes, that is right -- $3 a month – you can do exercises, enter chat rooms, track your daily progress and just stay connected.

So do you want to be happier? Then join me and countless others at www.happier.com as we support each other in our desire to remain optimistic and build resilience.

Additional Bonus: Hot off the presses my new e-book The 5 A’s of Achieving Successful Relationships Always.
With appreciation, Andrea
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Wednesday, March 18, 2009

Stay On The Right Side

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I would not be Dr. Success if I did not support and spread the work of others. That is what I do, in part, in sharing the work of great authors. Well, today's entry is two for the price of one. The review that follows was written by Craig Galati, President of Lucchesi Galati Architects, the premiere "green" architectural firm based in Las Vegas. Few have built as many, or have been designing "green" as long, as Lucchesi Galati. When in Las Vegas, visit the Springs Preserve to see an incredible example of their work.

When I come across a business creator who walks his talk, I like to acknowledge and support his work. As you can see from the kind of book Craig recommends, he is such a person. Those in business can learn a lot -- not just from reading A Whole New Mind -- but from how a business owner like Craig applies the thinking to achieving success in business. As always, read and learn -- then apply!

By Craig S. Galati
According to author Daniel H. Pink, “The future belongs to a very different kind of person with a different kind of mind — creators and empathizers, pattern recognizers and meaning makers. These people — artists, inventors, designers, story-tellers, caregivers, consolers, big picture thinkers — will reap society’s richest rewards and share its greatest joys.”

In his book, “A Whole New Mind,” Pink eloquently makes the argument that linear thinking, left-brain businesses are in for a rude awakening in the new economy. Not that they won’t still hold some relevance, but these businesses won’t lead a society that is quickly changing from task-based to systems-based, from narrow scope to big picture, from facts to stories, and from expertise to empathy and collaboration.

I have felt this change for years, but because I am in the design profession, I thought that I was just seeing the world through my right-brain, rose-colored glasses. But Pink’s data supports what I have been seeing in my business relationships for the past several years.
Pink suggests that a business’s future is dependent upon its answers to three fundamental questions:

1. Can someone overseas do it cheaper?
2. Can a computer do it faster?
3. Is the business offering something that satisfies the non-material transcendent desires of an abundant age?

I’ve answered these questions for my business and I suggest that you answer it for yours. Here are my thoughts on how to prepare for the new economy:

Focus on systems and connections. Tasks are always important to getting things done. But perhaps the systems and processes in which business is conducted are more important. Focus on these systems and the connections between the systems. Break-through ideas lie in studying these connections. For instance, how one connects marketing and work processes could lead to better ways of doing things and more successful positioning for future work. Connecting market data to the value proposition that your firm offers not only supports your business’ ability to get work, but also your ability to deliver work that is valuable. Design your work processes around delivering this market value and you have a recipe for success. Process improvements or innovations also will affect the other systems in your firm. Paying attention to these connections will yield dividends to your firm and your clients.

Sell empathy, not just services. Clients get offers for services every day. However, businesses do not often enough take the time to understand what the client needs and if the firm can meet those needs. Developing empathy takes time, but is essential to making the right offer to your clients.

Leverage technology for the routine tasks. If one is able to leverage technology to deliver routine tasks, he will free up valuable time to work closer with his team to understand the needs of his clients. Time is precious. Use it for high-level activities such as collaboration, reflection, idea generation and innovation.

Engage your clients in the solutions. Today’s clients want to be a part of the process of diagnosing and solving their problems. If a client wanted a stock solution to an issue, he could purchase it from many varied sources. Attorneys, think LegalZoom.com. Graphic designers, think StockLayout.com. Accountants, think TurboTax. Clients come to firms to get personal service and they want to be part of the process.

Technically correct is only half way there. There are many ways that clients can get technically correct solutions. In fact, isn’t that what you are being paid for? Technically correct is expected. But a technically correct solution with lousy customer service or follow-through isn’t going to cut it. I’ve found in my career that I’ve rarely failed in the technical delivery, but I’ve made mistakes in communication or misunderstanding. As Stephen Covey says in his book, “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People,” it doesn’t matter how precisely one can climb the ladder, if the ladder is placed on the wrong wall.

I’d like to hear from you:

• How do you answer Daniel Pink’s questions?
• Are you poised for leadership in the new economy?
• Is your ladder on the right wall?

Until next time …
Craig
Authors Note: Thanks to my friend Frank Beck who told me about Pink’s book. It is truly a must read.

Craig, Thank you...and may the force be with you, Andrea

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Wednesday, February 18, 2009

All a Twitter in Las Vegas

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To Twitter or Not To Twitter, That seems to be the big question!

Here is a Dr. Success suggestion for judging whether or not you should use Twitter, or any of the other untold number of social networking tools available. This suggestion comes in the form of rules I use to judge my participation:

1) Do not use any new technology for the first three months. Let the 14 year olds work themselves to death seeing how to use every available part of the new system. After three months observe how it is being used, whether you see a life-enhancing purpose for in you, then make your decision as to join or not to join. Reconsider your decision every 30 days.

2) Remember you are not 14 and generally don't need to see or hear from your friends 24/7. If what they were doing was so darned interesting, you would most likely be doing it with them.

3) The most important rule I use to assess most things in my life: Does it make me money and/or happy? If the answer to that is no, there is a second tier question: "does it allow me to deepen...I wrote "deepen"... a human connection. For this rule I use T. Boone Picken's suggestion of spending my time developing relationships that are a foot wide, but a mile deep.

Check out a current blog on Twitter at www.MarketPlace.org

Wishing you continued success,


Andrea T. Goeglein, Ph.D.
Dr. Success™
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Wednesday, January 28, 2009

Las Vegas Encore to Success

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Even Dr. Success™ needs a boost and is in the process of creating her next great Encore to Success. Lucky for me, no place personifies the concept “fake it till you make it”, like Las Vegas. Las Vegas is famous for holding out the promise of a better day and that anything good is possible.

Thanks to a very stalled economy, Las Vegas is allowing you to create your own Encore http://www.encorelasvegas.com/ to Success. For an unbelievably low investment, you can get a room at the spectacular new Steve Wynn resort, Encore http://www.encorelasvegas.com/ and engage your dreams for what is possible in your future.

Surrounded by the finest interior design elements, fabrics you can only wish to afford someday and impeccable service, you have the opportunity to hold on to your goals and remind yourself that change is good and is an indicator we are still growing. Thanks to a reasonably priced salon/spa menu, I was able to luxuriate in a manicure by nail technician extraordinaire, Lydia Gutierrez.

What treating yourself to a night at a resort like Encore allows is for you to remember what it feels like to be surrounded by wealth, luxury, and safety. Retaining those feelings during challenging times is, well, a challenge. Being able to recreate those feelings is, well, necessary for you to continue to strive toward your personal life success. Remember, if you allow yourself to forget what it feels like to have dreams, to experience luxury, and to be pampered, you are actually causing your own mental recession. You may not feel like you control much these days, but you still control how you feel.

So here is today’s Success Challenge: Find a place close to home (for those of you lucky enough to be in or near Las Vegas, you must experience Encore and its majestic spa) and create a one-day, affordable escape. Use to time away to remind yourself of your dreams – not focus on reality!

Wishing you a happy Encore to your success,

Andrea T. Goeglein, Ph.D.
Dr. Success™
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Thursday, December 11, 2008

Positive Psychology Takes A Holiday – 5 Steps to for a December to Remember!

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Well, it’s that time of the year again. The days are shorter, and the to-do lists are longer. There are gifts to buy, decorations to hang, festivities to attend (and host), as well as all the normal things that come with the year’s end, like wrapping up financial decisions along with all the gifts (especially challenging this year). But with every single one of holiday challenges we face, there comes another chance to find the hidden gifts wrapped up inside all of the work. The question is, just how are we to do that?

First, take an honest inventory of your burdens. This can give you great insights to managing them, prioritizing them, releasing them, and even turn them into opportunities for camaraderie. Used properly, those burdens are a chance to activate the laws of attraction (which definitely work better when we actually do the simple, courageous thing and just ask for help). Here are five steps to turning your December burden into a basket of cheer.

First, as you start each day, be sure to begin it with true appreciation. Before you tackle a list of chores, be sure to create a list of gratefulness. Some things are obvious (or should be). List them anyway. Even in a time of recession, we still live in a very abundant society. Making that list and checking it twice should definitely NOT be left only to the guy in a big red suit!

Second, keep your sense of humor. Positive psychology is a tool that we use and not a theory. By having a light hearted funny bone readily available when others are stressed out, their antics will not throw you off center. Remember, your goal is happiness – and if you start it with you, you will surely spread a little cheer to others. This will also allow you to live THIS one holiday season with no regrets.

Third, set your own personal priorities. There are a LOT of people to please and respond to during the holiday season. Saying “yes” to all of them is just a recipe for disaster. Forget about perfection – Hallmark holidays just don’t happen very often. So stand back and take the time to consciously decide what is right for your family. What is important to you? Then just say no to all the rest. Believe me, the world won’t stop revolving. Done effectively, this effort (and the ability to say no) accomplishes the sneaky side effect of allowing you to Live in the moment.

Fourth, ask for help! One of the basic tenets of positive psychology is to ALLOW. When to-do lists are measured in feet, not inches, asking for help is a great way to practice allowing. Be courageous. Seek support. If you feel isolated or overwhelmed, reach out to family and friends for support (and companionship). Besides making our lives easier, asking for help can be emotionally and spiritually enriching. And any time an individual is helped, everything around them is made better. Asking for help deepens connections, reduces stress, increases energy, and ends isolation. And you never know, the person helped the most may be the other guy!

Finally, surrender “old stories” (and your worries!). As human beings, we like to assume that we “know” how things will go – or we worry ourselves to death with what may or may not happen. What that often means around the holidays is that we allow ourselves to get stuck. We worry so much that we subconsciously volunteer to repeat unhealthy patterns over and over. The good news is, we don’t have to do that! Real success begins when we author and articulate our own definition of personal happiness. And by consciously reminding ourselves that life is always a new, uncharted adventure – we can create an entirely different holiday season. And in the process, write a new story and make it one you will LOVE to remember for years to come.

To your successful holidays and your happy new year!

Thursday, December 4, 2008

Personal Care: The Foundation of Personal Development

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So how much time each day, week, month, year, do you spend tending to your spiritual, physical and psychological well-being? Given the time of the year, this may appear a loaded question, yet there is no better time to examine where you put yourself on your list of things to do. This time of year we could take on an additional 40 hour work week just to create and participant in The Holiday Season. I have wondered, for all of my adulthood, exactly who is this season a holiday for?

If the cornerstone of personal development is self-esteem, the foundation is personal care. Self-esteem is how we value ourselves. It is not what others think of us, but what we think of ourselves. Self-esteem is your measure of your value. It requires you invest time, thought and energy into the care and development of your spiritual, physical and psychological well-being.

I will share what that looks like for me. Ten years ago, I started writing down my goals. In the personal area, when thinking ten years out, I wrote that I wanted to be able to get to a spa retreat four times a year – basically, once a quarter. It was an ambitious goal, yet I envisioned those weeks as a time to realign my fitness and health plan and to reinvigorate my spirit and clear my mind of clutter. I saw my personal life and my business life benefiting in a major way from this seemingly self-indulgent activity. What I knew for certain back then was that I was committed to maintaining the best health and fitness, and yet remaining involved and invigorated throughout my career.

Now for the reality of that goal. At best I have succeeded in scheduling a week-long trip once every two years. As this year evolved, I realized the last time I had prioritized that “necessary for my well-being and success” week was almost three years ago. My body showed it, my spirit longed for it, and my psyche was in overload.

Enter the Red Mountain Spa in St. George, Utah (http://www.redmountainspa.com/). A convenient and easy two-hour drive from Las Vegas, the Red Mountain Spa took all the thinking out of the equation. All you have to do is get there. The scenic outdoors provides the spiritual and psychological lifts, and the fitness schedule of classes provide the physical maintenance. To round out the experience, executive chef Dale Van Sky presents a nutritionally balanced menu in the form of three incredible meals a day, and any of the Sagestone spa treatments will guide you back to your road of well-being and success. A personal favorite was the Lavender Marine Bolus Massage I received from Jennifer. It was a mix of light pressure, with Thai stretching and the wonderful aroma of lavender salts. After that treatment, all was well with the world.

There was also a terrific personal growth side of the Red Mountain Spa experience. One such experience took the form of an ego adjustment. On the first day I gleefully anticipated a morning hike at the Trekker 3 level, their highest offered. After slugging through the sand, I was informed that we would be traversing the sandstone faced elevation of the 1,500 foot peak in front of me. The elevation was not the challenge; the fact that I was to take it at 4.5 miles per hour stopped me in my tracks. I tucked my ego back into its rightful place and announced I could not attempt that speed. Graciously, one of the two trail leaders simply took me another way! Then there was a personal growth of the ego enriching kind. On Friday evening I signed up for the Evening with the Stars with John Kolb. John is a master, yet amateur, astronomer and geologist. I learned much about the value of life and following your dreams from John in two short hours under the stars. When I got to see clearly the sites in the heavens 400 light years away, I knew that no matter how crooked my road of success might be, the Red Mountain Spa and John Kolb’s stars would help me find my way.

A powerful Zen saying offers us this path for success in life and work: “The master in the art of living makes little distinction between work and play, labor and leisure, mind and body, education and recreation, love and religion. The master hardly knows which is which. The master simply pursues the vision of excellence in whatever there is to do, leaving others to decide whether it is work or play. To the master, it is like always doing both.”




Monday, November 17, 2008

Transformational Life Coaching – By Dr. Cherie Carter Scott, “The Mother of Coaching”

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There are many different indicators in today’s world demonstrating that humanity has reached a new level of awareness and appreciation for its own existence. If we look at the shifts in the types of occupations being pursued (and sought after), the abundance of life coaches and personal development mentors is like a mirror held up to our collective psyche. It seems to say that life is a precious experience, and we simply want to be sure that we’re present for it in every way possible. To coin a somewhat overused phrase: We seek to live authentically.

In 1977, long before having a “life coach” was something commonly discussed at Starbucks, Dr. Cherie Carter-Scott published her first book on the subject and began a career that eventually, would find her labeled, “The Mother of Coaching.” New Species (published in 1978) was to become the first of many books Dr. Scott would write on personal development. The long list includes, “Negaholics,” a series of ‘Rules’ books – including “If Life is a Game, These are the Rules,” and her most recent work, “Transformational Life Coaching.”

Transformation Life Coaching throws open the doors to Life Coaching School and invites us all inside. Although written for those who either are, or espouse to become, mentors in the transformational movement, this book is an accessible “how to” for anyone. It welcomes all those who have spent time seeking to develop a better appreciation with their own life and how they intend to live it. Chapter 1 literally outlines what to look for and how to choose a coach, offering twenty-five important questions to discuss during the interview process.

In this book, Dr. Scott has created a virtual concordance of information, challenges for personal thought patterns and judgment, practical exercise and reference tools to use over and over. Embracing many global teachings, Dr. Scott often refers to the different chakras, or energy centers, as tools to release the ego and be of maximum service to others. As she explains, “You are in the process of opening up and taking control of your power,” and by deeply understanding each energy center, we will be able to literally, “open and close each chakra at will.”

Imagine being able to consciously open the fifth chakra (which controls speech and communication) in order to more fully participate in our marriage or work relationships – or being able to close down our first chakra, which embodies survival and security, so that we might be more risky and daring in our professional roles or fearlessly take on new adventures in life.

Dr. Scott has spent most of her professional life traveling the world and sharing her expertise on personal development and empowerment at every turn. On her website she shares that, “Writing a book is not done with the wave of a wand. It takes time to reflect and soul search for the universal truths related to each developmental phase.” These same words could definitely be applied to the very journeys that Dr. Scott encourages us to make with our lives.

What we know about coaching is that it is not only sought after, but it is necessary in today’s fast-paced world of endless challenges. From corporate teams to softball teams, being coached and coaching others on how to live as appreciatively and authenticity as possible is a proactive way to turn roadblocks into paving stones on your road of success.