Showing posts with label ego. Show all posts
Showing posts with label ego. Show all posts

Tuesday, February 28, 2012

Being Ready

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Dr. Success Challenge:  Would you be ready to step into an opportunity to advance your life dream at any moment?  Regardless of your answer, how do you know if you are ready?

It has been almost two months since I met Vaopele Tiatia, a graphic designer living in Utah, but from Hawaii.  Vao was seated next to me on a flight to Hawaii. 
This was the second trip Vao and his wife would be making in less than as many months.  Vao’s business had not been as robust as he needed and on his first trip he was returning home to help a family member and recharge his spirit.  On that first flight, he saw an advertisement for a shirt design contest.  Although Vao’s graphic work was generally web based, his real dream was to design clothing.  By the end of the flight he had a design in mind and committed to himself to enter the contest.

Well, enter he did, and win he did!  Part of the prize was a trip for two to Hawaii!  It was on that winning return trip that I met Vao.  I was struck by his natural sense of joy, his story of persistence, and how he spontaneously stepped into opportunity when it was presented.
Here is the follow up story.  On that return trip to pick up his prize money and award Vao and his wife decided that they would relocate. They chose to move to Las Vegas!  This move is a major change, a major risk and the potential for a major shift in Vao’s life and life work.  Part of the risk is Vao will be creating a clothing company using his winning design.  This is a plan that was not obvious to him just 5 months ago. 

I have told parts of Vao’s story since I meet him, yet it was in re-reading the chapter  ChangeYour Mind in Richard Rohr’s book The Naked Now that prompted me to revisit Vao.  Rohr writes, “Once you accept ongoing change as a central program for yourself, you tend to continue growing throughout all of your life…The ego and the false self hate change more than anything else in the world, and the mind is their primary control tower…Once you know that the one thing the ego-hates more than anything else is change, it makes perfect sense why most people hunker down into mere survival.” (pages 89-90)
Vao is clearly not most people.  Good luck my friend. 
Andrea. T. Goeglein, PhD


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Sunday, February 26, 2012

The Work of the Ego

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Being given a copy of Desideratra and learning that the author, Max Ehrmann (1872-1945) was generally unknown for this beautiful piece of work during his lifetime, has allowed me to consider the concept of the ego – and specifically, my ego. 

During the last week, I was approached by a woman named Nancy.  Nancy had been present at a GaryRusso performance and purchased two copies of Don’t Die with Your Song Unsung. 
Nancy told me one copy was for her and her husband and the other copy was for her son who was facing some professional life challenges.  She sent the book to her son and received a version of this message:  This is just what I needed.  I needed to remember how I see a situation is how the situation will appear.  If I think everyone I work is a jerk, they are jerks.  If I think I won’t be promoted because others are getting unfair advantages, I will make myself angry and probably not do as good a job – thereby not get promoted! 

Nancy’s son went on to say that reading Don’t Die helped him to remember he has the ability to manage his thoughts and he has the ability to create his present.  He asked his Mom to keep sending more positive books and materials. 
I will admit it feels wonderful when someone shares how my work has positively impacted their life.  Yet, I know my real growth will come when I can feel good about the work I have contributed even if I never know the impact it has or will have on others.  Let’s just say I – and my ego -- have some work to do!

Thank you, Andrea T. Goeglein, PhD
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