Unexpected Teachers Part II

In my last post, I challenged you to spend a week saying four simple phrases as you engaged in all your activities and encountered all the people, places and things that crossed your path. I told you I would share how using this process has impacted my life.

First I want to tell you about the book Dana suggested that got this whole process moving. It is ZeroLimits by Joe Vitale and Hew Len, Ph.D. I did not know Dr. Len or his work prior to reading the book. I had encountered Joe Vitale and his work over the years and put him neatly into my “he is not my teacher” category. After reading ZeroLimits, I own that my reaction to what I would call “spiritual marketing techniques” is totally some memory playing out in my subconscious. Now each time I feel a need to refer to Joe, or anyone else for that matter, as “not my teacher”, I repeat the four suggested phrases: I love you, I am sorry, please forgive me, and thank you. I have learned a lot from this process.

1. I have learned that I have a new way of noticing when I am judging someone or something and a new technique to clear my judgment and align more with my spirit and my God.

2. I have been attempting to develop a way of marketing that allows me to feel good about the material I present, allow others to access the information without feeling manipulated, and still make a profit from doing what I love to do. ZeroLimits showed me ways to do just that. By noticing what rubbed me wrong, stopping and clearing the thoughts by replacing with the four phrases, I was able to see not what I did like, but how I could present my material. And I really like sending love to someone instead of feeling judgmental toward them. Reminds me a lot of the concept of unconditional love. You don’t have to agree with someone, you just have to love them.
3. I learned that like all personal development, sending love instead of passing judgment is a lifelong task.

Most of all, I came across information in ZeroLimits that helped me clarify for myself something that has troubled me most my life. From the point of my religious training, your only purpose is to love God. Since God is in everyone, I was to love everyone. I could never get it. I could not see how I was supposed to love God before my love of my child, or my husband, or my parents. I would always say the people must come first. Through this and other books, I have come to understand that when I focus only on cleaning my relationship with God through loving everyone, I have actually put God first and put the people in my life first. There is no separation other than the separation I created in my mind. My love of and for God and others is no longer a hierarchy putting one person ahead of or behind God but my infinite actions based in love.

Most of all what I learned was that I must remain open to the teaching which come through expected teachers.

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Unexpected Teachers Part 1

Our daughter, Dana, went to a grade school founded by a head master that was Peace Core trained. He told me early in our relationship with the school, that he wanted to develop kids from whom their parents could learn. That is what the Peace Core strives to do in villages around the world. Teach the children and three generations will learn: themselves, their parents and their children when they come along.

When Dana recommended a book by an internet marketing guru who I had put into the category of “not my teacher”, I groaned. How could she have strayed so far? But I did listen long enough to hear all the book was suggesting was that you say “I love you” as often as possible as you go through your day. Since love is a key topic for me, I decided to be patient enough to listen to her explain the whole process.

The process is about taking 100% responsibility. That I like. So far the process was 2 for 2 in my book: love and responsibility. It suggests you get into the habit of saying four simple phrases as you go through your day:

1. I love you.
2. I am sorry.
3. Please forgive me.
4. Thank you.

That is all I am going to share for now.

Dr. Success Challenge: For a week as you go through your day, through every task, every call, every encounter, replace whatever is in your head with the four phrases above. Next week I will share some of my experiences.

Enjoy this weeks photo of Discovery's afterglow from Stew Gibbons, President of Connerton.

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Asking Part II - What You Ask For

Never has clarity been more important as when you are setting goals and asking for assistance – especially if the assistance you are seeking is from God or your universal source. I know, I know, I am using that “G” word again. Do yourself a favor and just get over it. You would not be reading my work if you did not have some belief in something greater than yourself. Unless, of course, you are a real glutton for punishment.

Dr. Success Challenge: Think of a time you set an intention, or a goal, and the result was not as you intended. Or you felt the request you stated in a prayer was not answered. Now look back on what you exactly asked for. If you used prayer, examine honestly if you were begging for a result or requesting guidance toward a desired outcome.

There are two important points I want to bring out. The first is the importance of incorporating some form of prayer, meditation, or reflective process in your daily personal development. This is not something I am requesting because I was brought up in an environment where that was taught and accepted. I bring it up because the seminal researcher in the field of well-beginning and happiness actually included the process of daily prayer and/or meditation as one of the key exercises in her book on using a scientific approach to getting the life you want.* When you have a practice tied to some belief in a greater good source, such as God, and something goes wrong, you will recover faster.

Second, be clear about what you ask for! That may seem simple but let me give you an example. A young woman was new to the practice of setting goals through the use of stating an affirmation or intention. She had a daily spiritual practice and supported her affirming with that practice. Her particular intention was around attracting a love interest who adored her. See believed she was clear on her intention because she had just come out of a relationship with a very respectable young man, but she realized that he never really adored her. From her perspective, he loved her, but she felt it was in a very competitive way instead of an adoring way.

So she was clear, her next relationship would be with someone who adored her. Well, she got exactly what she had intended. She attracted a very nice man who adored her and that was when she realized the error in her intention. You see, as much as she enjoyed and loved this young man as a person, she did not adore him the way he adored her. The relationship was not balanced in a way that could work long term.

To paraphrase her experience, “This affirmation and intention stuff really works, but you need to be careful that you are clear and complete in what you intend to attract.”

My advice: Ask, ask, ask – and invest time making sure that what you are asking for is really what you would like to attract.

*The How Of Happiness by Sonja Lyubomirsky

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You Unstuck

Are you finished with the storyline you are telling yourself and others about how the recent economic trauma has adjusted your life and dreams? Are you ready to get unstuck? Can you imagine a life with You Unstuck?

This month’s AM AZ book segment, which will air live on Tuesday, October 12 at 10 a.m. PST, will feature You Unstuck by Libby Gill. I think it’s the right book for right now. As a country we are a year into the economic adjustment. Twelve months is a figurative and literal cycle in psychological adjustment. Figuratively because it signifies transitioning through the four seasons of growth: Winter going dormant, Spring planting and budding, Summer growth and Fall harvest.

Literally because a year is 12 months!

Gill has boiled down the steps of getting You Unstuck into a three-word process: Clarify, Simplify, and Execute. The words really do speak for themselves. From the different areas of your life, to your thinking patterns, to your willingness to accept risk, she offers questions, assessments and exercises to get You Unstuck. She uses the latest findings in the neurosciences to support the processes she provides.

For anyone with money issues, I strongly recommend her Chapter 9 Mind Over Money. The chapter takes you through a self-examination of your spending style, your mindset and offers a step-by-step tracking system. It is a perfect example of her Clarify, Simplify, and Execute model. It challenges you to track your spending, really grasp where your cold hard cash is going, and execute a new way of thinking and behaving by making different choices that work better for you and your current financial situation.

As I stated above, I think the timing of this book is perfect. Too early in the cycle of trauma and you would not be able to comprehend where you are or how you got there. You needed time to see how you might have contributed to your situation before you can design a plan to adjust your behavior and mindset.

As we transition into the beginning of another year, hopefully you are ready to get out of your story and into new possibilities. There is no time better than the present to get You Unstuck.

With appreciation, Andrea
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Soul Food

Let me be clear. Nothing feeds my soul more than enjoying an outdoor walk in a scenically majestic environment, being surrounded by friends who have shared a lot of life together, and food so fresh and perfectly prepared that I forget about calories and fat grams because all I can taste is the love.

Dr. Success Challenge: Do you know what feeds your soul? Write down all the different things that make your soul – your spirit – come alive and renew itself? When was the last time you engaged in any of those opportunities? Here is where Practicing the Power of Now would come in real handy!

If you read my blog you know I am fond of suggesting “write down” or “make a list.” I hope it brings you some comfort that I actually write stuff down and make lots of lists. I do not make suggestions I do not also follow. One of my lists happens to be all the things I desire to be, do, and have during this life time. Under the “do” list, I had, “Take a trip to see the New England Fall Colors.”

You would think growing up in New York that was a simple thing to do, but like so many people I was too busy doing other things to really appreciate what was right around me. For about 10 years I have wanted to take a Fall Colors trip and I finally got around to doing it.

The trip was to the TopNotch Resort in Stowe, VT with 10 of our friends. The mark of a great vacation is when the weather does not cooperate, yet you feel you will remember the trip for a long time to come. That was what happened with our Stowe trip.

The sun was nowhere to be found, except in the love that was shared by all the people involved in the trip. From Carole, the most topnotch concierge ever, to Courtney the most topnotch masseuse ever, to our most topnotch friends ever, to Tony the most talented Tuscan chef/owner of La Trattoria la Festa ever, the sun was shining brighter than I could have imagined.

What did I learn from this experience? You can make a list of things you want to be, do, and have, yet it is only in being open to what is and being aware enough to notice, that you feed your soul what it needs, not what you thought you wanted. When God Winks is not just a title of a book.

Should your travels ever bring you to Stowe, VT, I would highly recommend you stay at the TopNotch Resort and devote a full day to their spa – and eat every, yes every dinner during your stay there at Trattoria La Festa owned by Tony (aka Antonio De Vito) and his pastry making partner extraordinaire, Patty.

Happy Fall, Andrea

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Asking Part I - HOW

On a glorious early September day, I decided to explore one of the many hiking trails at Mt. Charleston, Nevada. The hiking trails at Mt. Charleston are one of the many geological anomalies of the Las Vegas desert. When one thinks of a desert they generally do not think of mountain hiking trails starting at the 6,000 ft elevation and towering as high as 11,000 ft. Trees blanket the rugged terrain and often temperatures are 15 – 20 degrees cooler than the desert floor – all this just 30 minutes from the famous neon studded strip.

No matter how much I love nature and hiking, I have never mastered the art of using the great outdoors as my personal outhouse. Knowing my self-imposed limitation, I habitually use the park provided outhouses before starting out on a trail. Now technologically, outhouse sanitation has come a very long way. In many modern facilities in national parks you might not be totally aware that they really are outhouses the outhouse sanitation technology is so good. However, Mt. Charleston is not one of those places. The facilities there are every bit as bad as what I imagined the first constructed outhouses to be like – a gloried hole in the ground enclosed in a closet – oh, but with something that resembles a place to sit. Oozing from this structural temple of modesty you can usually assume an indescribably unpleasant odor that requires anyone choosing to enter to question why they would not just use some tree in the forest to relieve themselves. Okay, I am one of those people who should be questioning their choice.

But then I would have missed an opportunity to learn a good life lesson! On this day, I arrived at the outhouse in time to see a common family dynamic unfold. A mother in her thirties, dressed as though she has hiked many times before, stood with her two young sons as her daughter solemnly entered the outhouse. The mother greeted me apologetically for my needing to wait for yet one more child to use the facilities. In as long as it took for her to share her apology, her daughter exited with a pained, grimmest look on her face. Her mother cut her conversation with me short and snapped her attention to her child.

“Susie, you could not have done anything in that amount of time!” the visibly annoyed mom observed. With a squint of her eyes and finally releasing her breath which she had been holding, the little girl commanded, “You told me I had to ‘get in there’. You did not say I had to do anything.” The mother was not pleased, but I could not contain my laughter.

How many times had I done that in my life? How many times had I directed someone to do something they clearly did not want to or care to do, only to have them find a way not to comply? Demand compliance and you will get complacency or worse – contempt. Or, how many times had I made a request to God and not been clear? That will actually be the subject of my next blog. We do get what we ask for, so I suggest we choose our words very carefully.

With appreciation, Andrea
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